TRANSLATION: Khutbah, "Our Children in the West" February 18, 2011

All
praise and thanks is due to Allaah; Creator and Sustainer of all the
worlds. Blessings and peace be upon our master, Muhammad, and upon his
family and companions all together.

My sermon is titled, “How we educate our children in this land.”

Allaah,
the Exalted, said what means, “O you who have believed, protect
yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and
stones,” [At-Tahreem 66: 6]

Al-Qushayree
(may Allaah show him mercy) reminds that ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased
with him) relates that when this Ayah was revealed he said, “Allaah’s
Messenger (blessings and peace be upon him), we ward off from ourselves,
but how do we ward off from our families?” The Prophet (blessings and
peace be upon him) responded, “You forbid them from what you are
forbidden, and you command them with what Allaah commanded.” [Tafseer
Qurtubee]

MUSLIMS!

You
should know that al-Islaam is something absolutely great! We should
teach our children that this is a blessed bounty which can’t be
neglected or submitted to excess; rather we should seek to instill an
attitude of gratefulness for this bounty which has been given.

Allaah,
the Exalted, said what means, “And Allaah has made for you from
yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and
grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things.” [An-Nahl
16: 72]

The
Glorious Qur’aan described children as their being from the beauty of
this ephemeral existence and part of its joy when it said what means,
“Wealth and children are [but] adornment of the worldly life.” [Al-Kahf
18: 46]

Al-Islaam
has obligated on fathers and mothers the constant, pressing need to see
about the perfecting of children’s general personal development;
maximizing this as much as possible. Protecting them in these western
lands in order that they grow up upon the guidance of al-Islaam and its
rules to resist their being changed over days, little by little, until
they turn from al-Islaam completely by the second generation – if not in
the first, due to feelings of alienation.

This is a heavy burden of trust!

Society
is filled with many contemporary examples. The people of the west are
losing their sons and daughters, who are spreading out amongst these
groups – the blind leading the blind, and without any reason. That’s
because parents have cut the links which would tie their children to
their cultures. So there’s no link to their Deen, their mother tongue,
their home countries, or even the most basic of morals and manners.

So
it’s upon the father and mother to rectify themselves (first), and then
rectify their families. The need for the responsible parties to rectify
those who they’re responsible for is found in the authentic Hadeeth.
Allaah’s Messenger (His blessings and peace be upon him) said, “All of
you are shepherds, and all of you will be asked about your flocks … A
man is a shepherd regarding his family, and he’ll be asked about his
flock. A woman is a shepherdess in regards of her spouse’s household,
and she’ll be asked about her flock.” [Agreed Upon]

The
Exalted said what means, “…protect yourselves …” [At-Tahreem 66: 6].
The children enter into this because the child is part of the parents.
So what is obligated of fathers and mothers is to be a righteous example
for their children, and that they urgently desire to flee from the
punishment of Allaah with themselves and their children because they
(their children) are a trust which is upon their necks. They should
teach them the Halaal and the Haraam, and drive them away from sins and
disobedience and things other than that from the Laws of al-Islaam.

The
public image of the grown-up Muslim in this land of alienation – except
those Allaah has mercy on – is lost due to the lack of good examples in
the home. He sees his father, mother, and older siblings acting in
contradiction to the Shar’eeyah in speech and action. So he follows in
these contradictions, and does so blindly – thinking them to be correct,
and not counting them as false. Parents are then surprised with the
personality that emerges. A personality which developed differently than
the good one they had hoped for him; although they were the cause for
its loss.

MUSLIMS!

I
know that life in the West is extremely difficult, filled with
countless things we seek to acquire. All of us are busy wishing to
provide for our families sufficient provision in terms of housing, food,
transportation, and others. However, it’s not acceptable to neglect to
our children’s rearing upon al-Islaam here in the West; because we will
be asked about them! When Allaah takes account of us, if we fell short,
or neglected, in our up-brining of them, our sincere advising of them,
and our guiding them (remember) Allaah said what means, “And stop them;
indeed, they are to be questioned." [As-Saaffaat 37: 24]

Sometimes
we may gain wealth and an easy life, being enviously desirous of it,
but we are still losers! You’ll be greater losers because you lost
regarding how you raised your children, and inculcated faithful
convictions in them and a spiritual nature. With the preoccupation of
parents (with the above) spurious thoughts/influences enter. With them
there enters all sorts of evils; including inappropriate mixing and
wanton displays. Such are the effects of peer-pressure. This causes the
loss of all that’s so important; honor, purity, Islamic values, etc.

So,
it’s upon us, my brother/sister Muslim, to raise our children according
to the correct Islamic upbringing; far away from extremes. We must
clarify for them what is correct and what is false. What is Halaal, and
what is Haraam. And become righteous examples for them, in every
possible way. It’s come to us by Athar; “Play with your child for seven
(years), train him/her for seven (years), and be his/her companion for
seven (years), then leave the ties that bind.” [?]

So in this Athar is clarification of the phases in how we should proceed.

Phase 1: Age 0 -7

· Keeping them safe from harm

· Playing with them and being generally easy natured

· Beginning their development upon al-Islaam, WITH MERCY

o Especially with the Kalimah; this because it reinforces the Fitrah

The
Prophet (Allaah’s blessings and peace be upon him) said, “Every child
is born upon a state of Fitrah, then it’s their parents who turn them
into Jews, Christians, or Magians.” [Al-Bukhaaree]

Or,
as the Prophet (Allaah’s blessings and peace be upon him) similarly
said, “Bit by bit, teach them al-Qur’aan and love of the Prophet
(Allaah’s blessings and peace be upon him) and the people of his house.”
[?]

Phase 2: Age 7-14

This
is the age at which a child begins to understand and accept what
they’re taught. Among the most effective means to training them is
keeping constant company with them; especially having them accompany you
to the Masjid and teaching them about its importance in the life of
each individual Muslim. The Prophet (Allaah’s blessings and peace be
upon him) said, “Command your children with Salaah when they are seven,
and punish them for it (its negligence) when they are ten – and separate
their beds.” These are the foundations of the Prophetic model of
personal development. Begin with teaching them the proper etiquette’s of
asking permission.

Allaah
said what means, “O you who have believed, let those whom your right
hands possess and those who have not [yet] reached puberty among you ask
permission of you [before entering] at three times: before the dawn
prayer and when you put aside your clothing [for rest] at noon and after
the night prayer. [These are] three times of privacy for you. There is
no blame upon you or upon them beyond these [periods], for they
continually circulate among you – some of you, among others. Thus does
Allaah make clear to you the verses; and Allaah is Knowing and Wise.”
[An-Noor 24: 58]

This
text is a proof of the importance of starting this process young, and
teaching them to honor the elders and show compassion to the young.

Allaah’s
Messenger (His blessings and peace be upon him) said, “They’re not from
us, those who don’t show mercy to our young, and acknowledges the
eminence of our elders.” [Hassan Saheeh; at-Tirmithee #1920]

Phase 3: Age 14-21

This
is the phase of young adult-hood. You don’t formally train a young
adult, but you direct them with gentleness and wisdom. So this is known
as the phase of companionship. You should know (this) brothers and
sisters!

It’s
vitally important that we establish all of the best examples for our
children from the earliest of ages. We should safe-guard them from evil
friends, etc. We should inculcate in them, through the judicious
application of gentle wisdom, the reality of Allaah’s constant
observation of us. We should teach them the Prophet’s (Allaah bless him
and grant him peace) biography and description, increasing their love
for him and imitation of him in every way. We should develop in them a
love and appreciation for all of the Companions of Allaah’s Messenger
(His blessings and peace be upon him), and attach them to the scholars
(both their knowledge and their refined character). We should establish
in our own lives good examples of hope, fear, not being enslaved to this
life, chastity, truthfulness, and trust-worthiness. Be for them a
righteous example, in word and action, because if you don’t do this then
they will find other examples here in the West.

Allaah
said what means, “Do you order righteousness of the people and forget
yourselves while you recite the Scripture? Then will you not reason?”
[Al-Baqarah 2: 44]

He
also said what means, “O you who have believed, why do you say what you
do not do? Great is hatred in the sight of Allaah that you say what you
do not do.” [As-Saff 61: 2&3]

I
said this, my speech, and I seek the forgiveness of Allaah the Great
for myself, and my parents, and the remainder of all the Muslims.

Khutbah is Very Important not just in the West but in the east too, because We are live in a globalization and secular world with "The New World Order" , in everywhere we need save our Culture and our Religion. We live in same place and see same Media and eat same Foods.

God Bless You Shaikh Wathiq
And Thank You So Much Mr.Saaeed to spread the Khutbah.

God Bless You Shaikh Wathiq

أبو سهيلة سعيد الأمريكي كتب:: All
praise and thanks is due to Allaah; Creator and Sustainer of all the
worlds. Blessings and peace be upon our master, Muhammad, and upon his
family and companions all together.

My sermon is titled, “How we educate our children in this land.”

Allaah,
the Exalted, said what means, “O you who have believed, protect
yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and
stones,” [At-Tahreem 66: 6]

Al-Qushayree
(may Allaah show him mercy) reminds that ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased
with him) relates that when this Ayah was revealed he said, “Allaah’s
Messenger (blessings and peace be upon him), we ward off from ourselves,
but how do we ward off from our families?” The Prophet (blessings and
peace be upon him) responded, “You forbid them from what you are
forbidden, and you command them with what Allaah commanded.” [Tafseer
Qurtubee]

MUSLIMS!

You
should know that al-Islaam is something absolutely great! We should
teach our children that this is a blessed bounty which can’t be
neglected or submitted to excess; rather we should seek to instill an
attitude of gratefulness for this bounty which has been given.

Allaah,
the Exalted, said what means, “And Allaah has made for you from
yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and
grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things.” [An-Nahl
16: 72]

The
Glorious Qur’aan described children as their being from the beauty of
this ephemeral existence and part of its joy when it said what means,
“Wealth and children are [but] adornment of the worldly life.” [Al-Kahf
18: 46]

Al-Islaam
has obligated on fathers and mothers the constant, pressing need to see
about the perfecting of children’s general personal development;
maximizing this as much as possible. Protecting them in these western
lands in order that they grow up upon the guidance of al-Islaam and its
rules to resist their being changed over days, little by little, until
they turn from al-Islaam completely by the second generation – if not in
the first, due to feelings of alienation.

This is a heavy burden of trust!

Society
is filled with many contemporary examples. The people of the west are
losing their sons and daughters, who are spreading out amongst these
groups – the blind leading the blind, and without any reason. That’s
because parents have cut the links which would tie their children to
their cultures. So there’s no link to their Deen, their mother tongue,
their home countries, or even the most basic of morals and manners.

So
it’s upon the father and mother to rectify themselves (first), and then
rectify their families. The need for the responsible parties to rectify
those who they’re responsible for is found in the authentic Hadeeth.
Allaah’s Messenger (His blessings and peace be upon him) said, “All of
you are shepherds, and all of you will be asked about your flocks … A
man is a shepherd regarding his family, and he’ll be asked about his
flock. A woman is a shepherdess in regards of her spouse’s household,
and she’ll be asked about her flock.” [Agreed Upon]

The
Exalted said what means, “…protect yourselves …” [At-Tahreem 66: 6].
The children enter into this because the child is part of the parents.
So what is obligated of fathers and mothers is to be a righteous example
for their children, and that they urgently desire to flee from the
punishment of Allaah with themselves and their children because they
(their children) are a trust which is upon their necks. They should
teach them the Halaal and the Haraam, and drive them away from sins and
disobedience and things other than that from the Laws of al-Islaam.

The
public image of the grown-up Muslim in this land of alienation – except
those Allaah has mercy on – is lost due to the lack of good examples in
the home. He sees his father, mother, and older siblings acting in
contradiction to the Shar’eeyah in speech and action. So he follows in
these contradictions, and does so blindly – thinking them to be correct,
and not counting them as false. Parents are then surprised with the
personality that emerges. A personality which developed differently than
the good one they had hoped for him; although they were the cause for
its loss.

MUSLIMS!

I
know that life in the West is extremely difficult, filled with
countless things we seek to acquire. All of us are busy wishing to
provide for our families sufficient provision in terms of housing, food,
transportation, and others. However, it’s not acceptable to neglect to
our children’s rearing upon al-Islaam here in the West; because we will
be asked about them! When Allaah takes account of us, if we fell short,
or neglected, in our up-brining of them, our sincere advising of them,
and our guiding them (remember) Allaah said what means, “And stop them;
indeed, they are to be questioned." [As-Saaffaat 37: 24]

Sometimes
we may gain wealth and an easy life, being enviously desirous of it,
but we are still losers! You’ll be greater losers because you lost
regarding how you raised your children, and inculcated faithful
convictions in them and a spiritual nature. With the preoccupation of
parents (with the above) spurious thoughts/influences enter. With them
there enters all sorts of evils; including inappropriate mixing and
wanton displays. Such are the effects of peer-pressure. This causes the
loss of all that’s so important; honor, purity, Islamic values, etc.

So,
it’s upon us, my brother/sister Muslim, to raise our children according
to the correct Islamic upbringing; far away from extremes. We must
clarify for them what is correct and what is false. What is Halaal, and
what is Haraam. And become righteous examples for them, in every
possible way. It’s come to us by Athar; “Play with your child for seven
(years), train him/her for seven (years), and be his/her companion for
seven (years), then leave the ties that bind.” [?]

So in this Athar is clarification of the phases in how we should proceed.

Phase 1: Age 0 -7

· Keeping them safe from harm

· Playing with them and being generally easy natured

· Beginning their development upon al-Islaam, WITH MERCY

o Especially with the Kalimah; this because it reinforces the Fitrah

The
Prophet (Allaah’s blessings and peace be upon him) said, “Every child
is born upon a state of Fitrah, then it’s their parents who turn them
into Jews, Christians, or Magians.” [Al-Bukhaaree]

Or,
as the Prophet (Allaah’s blessings and peace be upon him) similarly
said, “Bit by bit, teach them al-Qur’aan and love of the Prophet
(Allaah’s blessings and peace be upon him) and the people of his house.”
[?]

Phase 2: Age 7-14

This
is the age at which a child begins to understand and accept what
they’re taught. Among the most effective means to training them is
keeping constant company with them; especially having them accompany you
to the Masjid and teaching them about its importance in the life of
each individual Muslim. The Prophet (Allaah’s blessings and peace be
upon him) said, “Command your children with Salaah when they are seven,
and punish them for it (its negligence) when they are ten – and separate
their beds.” These are the foundations of the Prophetic model of
personal development. Begin with teaching them the proper etiquette’s of
asking permission.

Allaah
said what means, “O you who have believed, let those whom your right
hands possess and those who have not [yet] reached puberty among you ask
permission of you [before entering] at three times: before the dawn
prayer and when you put aside your clothing [for rest] at noon and after
the night prayer. [These are] three times of privacy for you. There is
no blame upon you or upon them beyond these [periods], for they
continually circulate among you – some of you, among others. Thus does
Allaah make clear to you the verses; and Allaah is Knowing and Wise.”
[An-Noor 24: 58]

This
text is a proof of the importance of starting this process young, and
teaching them to honor the elders and show compassion to the young.

Allaah’s
Messenger (His blessings and peace be upon him) said, “They’re not from
us, those who don’t show mercy to our young, and acknowledges the
eminence of our elders.” [Hassan Saheeh; at-Tirmithee #1920]

Phase 3: Age 14-21

This
is the phase of young adult-hood. You don’t formally train a young
adult, but you direct them with gentleness and wisdom. So this is known
as the phase of companionship. You should know (this) brothers and
sisters!

It’s
vitally important that we establish all of the best examples for our
children from the earliest of ages. We should safe-guard them from evil
friends, etc. We should inculcate in them, through the judicious
application of gentle wisdom, the reality of Allaah’s constant
observation of us. We should teach them the Prophet’s (Allaah bless him
and grant him peace) biography and description, increasing their love
for him and imitation of him in every way. We should develop in them a
love and appreciation for all of the Companions of Allaah’s Messenger
(His blessings and peace be upon him), and attach them to the scholars
(both their knowledge and their refined character). We should establish
in our own lives good examples of hope, fear, not being enslaved to this
life, chastity, truthfulness, and trust-worthiness. Be for them a
righteous example, in word and action, because if you don’t do this then
they will find other examples here in the West.

Allaah
said what means, “Do you order righteousness of the people and forget
yourselves while you recite the Scripture? Then will you not reason?”
[Al-Baqarah 2: 44]

He
also said what means, “O you who have believed, why do you say what you
do not do? Great is hatred in the sight of Allaah that you say what you
do not do.” [As-Saff 61: 2&3]

I
said this, my speech, and I seek the forgiveness of Allaah the Great
for myself, and my parents, and the remainder of all the Muslims.

» TRANSLATION: Khutbah, "Our Children in the West II" February 25, 2011
» TRANSLATION: Khutbah, "Mercy To All The Worlds" March 18, 2011
» TRANSLATION: Khutbah, "Developing Good Character" March 4, 2011
» Friday Khutbah: Manners Between Muslims 12/16/2011
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